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Who and what do you see in the mirror?Courage, choices, reflection, plans, interaction, solitude and relaxation – all part of who we are, our values, attitudes and behavior. They are all pieces of the same puzzle – some larger than others, changing with time but always present in one way or the other.

Sunset in Sweden

Be in sync with your surroundings. Your emotions are affected by the world you live in – your physical, emotional and social surroundings. If you’re in sync with that world, you have a much better chance of achieving happiness.
Think about where you currently live. Now, ask yourself whether you’re living in a place where you can be happy. If the answer is yes, then you know that you environment is not the root of your unhappiness. If the answer is no, it might be. Consider a ‘geographic cure” – move or spend time at a place you have longed for, explore and recharge – then decide if the change of your surroundings is necessary for your long term happiness. In any event you may experience something you’ll never forget…like the sunset by the ocean in Sweden…:)

The "Personal Self"

Who am I? What makes me unique? Where am I going in life? Am I comfortable with myself? Solitude is a chance to learn something about yourself. Self-discovery is a process that involves asking and answering the questions above.

Solitude also provides an opportunity for perspective. When you’re caught up in the hassles of day-to-day life, all you can see is what’s directly in front of you – the problem of the moment. If you want to see and appreciate the big picture of what your life’s all about, you have to step back and get a bird’s-eye view – and that’s exactly what solitude allows you to do.

Taking time for yourself is often viewed as selfish and uproductive. Solitude is also uncomortable for many people because they’ve learned to derive their self-esteem from activities initiated by their “other selves” – that is, their efforts to satisfy themselves by satisfying others. But there are important benefits that come from spending time with your “personal self”, that part of you that doesn’t need other people to be happy…:)

I’m in Sweden as you know…where the sun never seems to set…writing this at 10:30 in the evening and the sun is still up! The light, the joy, the optimism about a never ending day (at least until the dark winters kick in :)) reminds me about the following quote from Pat Meehan- “Whether you are in the last chapter of a book, at the later chapters of your life, there’s always another road to lead you in your direction.”
You will always be remembered by the life you lived, the people you touched, the value you added to the world, and the brightness that shined from your light.

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Lars – Transition & Retirement Coach

Certified Retirement Coach


July 2011
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