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Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Socialize. See friends, relatives, go to club meetings. Stay connected. This is paramount.

Practice above 🙂 !

 

 

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

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Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Second recipe – Live in a home with a cozy environment that you or someone in your family uses every day. It can be more satisfying than living in a museum designed to impress others. Spending time and money to maintain a home that is larger than you need diverts these resources from more fulfilling endeavors.

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

First recipe – Don’t bring any material thing into your home unless your absolutely love it and want to keep it until it is beyond repair. Too much stuff is suffocating us. Purchasing, maintaining, insuring, storing and eventually disposing of our stuff sucks up our precious life energy.

Remember that your best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other…

A personal note related to above…Back in 2001, I became a stay-home-dad and had the great fortune for the next 10 years to be part of my kids every day fun laughter, tears, learning and challenges. I experienced first hand that is it NO cliche – it really is the small things in life that matters. It is also not what you do out of need – the volunteering I experienced in schools wasn’t done out of need…it was done out of love. And the reward wasn’t money in your pocket – it was an investment, a deposit in our heart and soul.

Now, looking back at those years and seeing the love and appreciation in the, by now, young women that used to be my kids running around, pulling my hand, urging me to come and play, give them a hand, read and feed them not only food but knowledge and experience, I know it was all worth it. And I know it wasn’t necessarily that they NEEDED me but rather that they got what the LOVE they wanted to grow up, establishing their own personal interests, attitudes and values – a belief system that will follow them through life.

So, remember that your best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other 🙂

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. 12 new Smart Strategies to use are coming your way. Read my blog.

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1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

As you grow up, you will have your heart broken more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures! Laugh too much! and love like you’ve never been hurt!

Because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back…

Get to know your Personal Interests, Attitudes and Values

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I have a list of folks I know..all written in a book,
And every now and then…I go and take a look.
That is when I realize these names…they are a part,
Not of the book they’re written in…but taken from the heart.
For each name stands for someone…who has crossed my path sometime,
And in that meeting they have become…the reason and the rhyme.
Although it sounds fantastic… for me to take this claim,
I really am composed…of each remembered name.
Although you’re not aware…of any special link,
Just knowing you have shaped my life…more than you could think.
So please don’t think my greeting…as just a mere routine,
Your name was not…forgotten in between.
For when I send a greeting…that is addressed to you,
It is because you’re on the list…of folks I’m indebted to.
So whether I have known you…for many days or few,
In some ways you have a part…in shaping things I do.
I am but a total…of many folks I’ve met,
You are a friend I would prefer…never to forget.

Thank you for being my friend!

Is getting what you want out of reach? Do you even know what you REALLY want? If you do, what keeps you from getting it?

It all starts with finding out what matters to you, what drives you into taking action. Wouldn’t you agree that when we feel passionate about something – career, hobby or a relationship to mentioned just a few – we spring into action! We do what we have to do to “get it”! It’s part the competitiveness humans always have felt about life – striving for something better and do it, not by hurting others (you may in its mildest form call that greed) but by focusing in on what I can do and WHY to achieve my own personal goals, working sometimes alone in doing so but more commonly as part of a team.

What if there’s a simple way of finding out more about what makes us take action? The WHY and HOW we function as humans and more importantly the why and how YOU function and “gets it” – be it more rewarding career, work-life balance or relationship?

Well, there is – a simple call or email can start you on a journey that will take you to places you never knew existed, finding a more meaningful way – a more passionate way of achieving your goals.

For your FREE consultation visit  me

Electronic Dance Music

Electronic Dance Music

It’s not WHAT we do, or HOW we do it…it is WHY we do it that matters. Electronic Dance Music is defined as “music being produced with the intention of it being heard in the context of a continuous DJ set; progressing from one to the next via a synchronized segue or mix” . EDM is all about WHY – there are few rules about WHAT is mixed or HOW it is being mixed or danced, or even if there are it’s not the reason why the audience like it – it is all about WHY it is being followed by so many, WHY it is such a movement among young people of all backgrounds and WHY the creators of the Electronic Dance Music has been so successful marketing the concept.

And the answer lies in the acronym itself – EDM – Emotional, Direct & Motivational. It’s music that inspire the audience to dance, have fun, party, be happy and get together.

When I coach I stress the importance of a person’s interests, attitudes and values (the WHY behind the actions we take) and there’s a clear reason for WHY Electronic Dance Music has become such a movement – it’s music that hit the cord of young people – and old as well – who are open to the idea that throughout life we do things, not because we were told WHAT or HOW to do things but because we were told, or even better experienced, WHY we do them…

In marketing, the most successful companies are the ones who do not emphasize WHAT they do, HOW they do it but WHY they provide a service or product…the EDM of marketing – the Emotional, Direct and Motivational connection they make with their audience, their buyers. Same emotional, direct and motivational connection, Electronic Dance Music makes with its audience. And the same reason why we, in general, like to do things, live our lives and share our experiences with others with similar interests, attitudes and values – and to experience the emotional, direct and motivational thrill of being.

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