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Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Practice slow, deep breaths. Shallow, fearful breathing seems to send stress signals to the brain.

Practice above 🙂 !

More ways in my next blog!

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Seek the support of others who want to simplify their lives. Join or start a simplicity circle if you enjoy group interaction. Living simply in our culture can be a lonely journey, one that friends and family still on the earn-and-spend treadmill may not understand.

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

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Plan for sex.

Spontaneity is great but smart couples know that good sex doesn’t just happen. Like everything else, it takes time and planning.

It’s been said that in order to feel fulfilled you should focus on one or two small things to accomplish each day. In my coaching I talk about identifying short-and long-term goals, aligned with your interests, attitudes and values – your true purpose and priorities – bringing you – on the road map of life – closer to your final destination.

Life doesn’t have to be something that just “happens” to you. You have more of a say in your future than you might imagine. Of the ones I’ve coached, many, who feel they didn’t  wind up “where they wanted to be” had only the vaguest idea of where that place was. They were somehow without direction but admitted to have no focus to begin with. In other words, they were lost from the very beginning, because they didn’t have the life road map – never drew one, never took the time to write down the short-and long-term goals, their direction.

Lars: five years from now and the journey to get there starts with me finding out a) what’s important to me about success [The Values Staircase, a ThinkLars trademark] and b) how “balanced” is my wheel of life [The Wheel of Life, a Meyer Resource Inc. trademark]. It’s about my values – the guidelines I’ll bring with me on my journey and the fuel I need to succeed. What is it I need to accomplish, to satisfy, and how do I find the most rewarding road on the road map of life? The more balanced my “wheels” are the smoother the ride, the faster I can travel (if I so choose to), or the more I’ll enjoy the ride! There are eight spokes on the wheel that, together, and if balanced, will make the wheel roll with fewer bumps and lessen the risk of “deflation”.

1. Professional, 2. Routine, 3. Love, 4. Family, 5. Personal, 6. Self-Development, 7.Wellness and 8. Social

Let’s start with Professional – this area (“spoke”) relates to what I do for a living: the studies, job, career, projects, level of competence, colleagues, hierarchy, self-accomplishment, and working conditions I experience – and how “satisfied” I am with each one of them.  Routine – this “spoke” concerns time management, money, necessary documents, home management, housework, shopping, cleaning, laundry, etc., and how they are all graded/satisfied/taken care of at the present moment. I think you get the grasp of how the Wheel of Life exercise works. The more balanced the 8 spokes are,  the better prepared you are for the road ahead.

If you decide you need someone by your side who will focus entirely on you, and who will help and support you in getting what you really want, to define, set, and track your own goals – then I’ll be your Coach throughout your journey. Feel free to send me your comments (using the form below).

It’s about finding out more about yourself, self-discovery, getting to know and trust the only person who is responsible for your own happiness. And you will all have front row to my journey, hoping to inspire you to set sail on your own journey and if so, I’ll be there to help, support and track your progress.

Curious?  Get in touch with me for your own, no-cost, initial consultation. I promise you it will take no more than 15 minutes of your time and you will leave with a better understanding of what is important to you, what you value and what the key checkpoints on your journey will be! 🙂

Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Live in the moment through activities you enjoy, and small escapes like movies and TV.

Practice above 🙂 !

 

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Follow my blog over the next 10 weeks for 10 different “recipes for simplicity” and see if you can simplify your life and be happier and more fulfilled in the process 🙂

Connect with a sense of spirit in your life, whether through prayer, religious services, journal writing, meditation, or spiritually related reading. Simplicity leads to spirituality and spirituality leads to simplicity. Cultivate a practice of silence and solitude, even if for just 15 to 30 minutes a day. Your spirituality will evolve naturally 🙂

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. Every week for the next 12 weeks you’ll get a new Smart Strategy to use 🙂

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Do not place blame.

Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together — sit close, hold hands, touch each other’s face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone 🙂

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. Every week for the next 12 weeks you’ll get a new Smart Strategy to use 🙂

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Boost your compatibility.

Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don’t like your partner’s choice, don’t complain; it’s your turn next.

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Seventh “recipe” – Spend at least an hour a week in a natural setting away from crowds of people, traffic and buildings. Three or four is even better. There is nothing more basic or simple than the natural world. 🙂

Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad.

Get perspective. Remember past hardships and problems you’ve overcome.

Practice above 🙂 !

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Certified Retirement Coach

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