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Being Focused on the Solution of a situation rather than the cause – the problem – is the driving force behind SF coaching.
The idea being that it’s more useful to focus attention on building solutions for problems than on analyzing causes of problems, trusting that any person is competent to solve his or her own problems, but may need help finding solutions that fit his or her unique circumstances; individualized solutions that are really owned by the coachee/performer/team.
- Problem talk is negative, solution talk is positive and future focused.
- The future is both created and negotiable. People are not locked into a set of behaviors based on history and problems of the past.
- If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it. If it works, do more of it.
- The solution is not necessarily related to the problem. Talking about and acting upon what will be different is the focus, not uncovering why the problem occurred.
- No problem happens all the time; there are always exceptions that can be utilized. These exceptions can be used to create the solution.
- Small steps can lead to big changes. Being solution focused means using a series of small manageable steps to build the path to a Solution.
- Again, problem talk is negative, solution talk is positive and future focused.
ThinkLARS – Life stress relieving Awareness and Resources for your Success!
Mindfulness is awareness of, and an alert observing of your thoughts, emotions, body sensations, desires, memories, images, personality dynamics, attitudes, motivation, behavior, etc.
When you are mindful of something, you are observing it, not caught up in it and not identified with it. With people, you become more settled into being fully there with them, more peacefully relaxed in awareness of them and you and what’s happening, less identified with pleasant or unpleasant reactions that arise, less caught up in the past or future or sense of needing to make something happen. We can feel it immediately when someone else is mindfully present with us; similarly, others can feel it when you are that way yourself.
ThinkLARS – Life stress relieving Awareness and Resources for your Success!