Life lessons learned from transitioning…

What does life transition mean and what would better managing them entail?

Let’s take a pivotal period in life – transitioning into retirement or semi-retirement. One of the things to look at, as in any transition, is the help needed to build resilience and skills in an individual facing this life changing transition.

Planning, preparing and preventing are three key words that first come to mind, and with a help of a coach you can enter into this new phase of your life confident and with more ease.

During any transition you hit barriers, road blocks, that have prevented you to succeed in the past. One is a behavioral barrier – the way we relate to others. Loneliness, for example, which so significantly impacts health later in life, is one important barrier you may face. Without the support of a partner, peers, family, friend, neighbors, an individual might find it considerably harder to face significant life changes.
On the other hand, reduced independence might prove detrimental because it can diminish the individual’s sense of control of his or her own destiny.

Attitudes also play a pivotal role in any transition. How we choose to enter into a transition. To capitalize on the lessons learnt from their own past experiences (or other’s) the individual is given a platform from where to better prepare for future difficult transitions. The challenge is that it may not be obvious how to do this and guidance from a coach could prove pivotal to the success of the change…to de-traumatize the transition.

Instead of fearing change, embrace it and instigate a change in perception from one of loss and hopelessness,  to one focused on assets that builds resilience.

Other barriers are related to family and social networks, and how to best “intervene” to put you back on track on your journey – your transition – into retirement.

These are a just a few of the challenges/barriers you’ll face in a transition but they give you an idea of what to expect if you choose not to plan, prepare and prevent. i.e. entering into the transition kind of blindfolded.

If you like to get help with a transition like this or any other transition you are facing in life, please get in touch with me to discuss how I can be of help – www.CoachLars.com

“Undress your soul at night, as you do your body” – George Herbert

To bare our heart (or soul) to someone, to reveal our innermost thoughts…to undress your soul. Check out my illustration – Feelings & Expressions©.

 

The Secret of Happiness… :)

Expression of Joy – photo by Lars

Begin & end each day with an Expression of Joy! Then you know you have done something that day to not only add value to your own well-being but in the process you have touched so many others – many whom you’ll never see again, some you’ll wake up next to in the morning.

The key to understand joy in the things you see or do is awareness. Awareness is knowing what is happening around you. Self-awareness is knowing what you are experiencing. When you truly accept, choose or take responsibility for your thoughts and your actions, your commitments to them rises and so does your “expression of joy”… Being aware of who you are is also about knowing your interests, attitudes and values – for more about that contact me for a free consultation!

Take the first step in Faith…

“Take the first step in Faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

– Martin Luther King

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people only exist”

Oscar Wilde said – “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people only exist”

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.  Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles.  Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost.  Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.

Please take moment to click on this link, read, learn and spread the insight – a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:

8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood”

Marie Curie (1867-1934) said:

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It s only to be understood”.

The strength, the courage, the faith and hope we need to walk through life and the path we have chosen leave no room for fear…

“What if” is always on our minds when trying to understand and explain something we feel don’t go our way…but as a parent, partner and lover the what if doesn’t exist…because we do what it takes to care for our children and the ones we love, we handle the situations as they occur, we don’t try to second guess. We take the necessary steps and act out of love and do everything we can to protect, nurture, develop, support and give them the one and only thing we never should run out of – love. And we tell them “nothing in life is to be feared, only to be understood”…

Why do we then doubt our selves, our path, our way and tell ourselves “what if” when we don’t do that to others…?

In order to understand life we may need a helping hand…As your life coach and transition coach I’ll be there on your journey to learn, to help, to support…to coach. We may know what’s best for the ones we love…make sure though to do same for YOU… challenge yourself, without fear, to answer the following;

“If you could do anything now, with the life you have in front of you, what would it be?”

Then fill out the contact form below with your answer in the comment box, check out my website CoachLars.com and get ready for a free initial consultation how to have the life you want and get the support you need. Understand life, rather than fearing it, and instead of asking yourself “what if”, simply asking yourself “what can I do”.

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Proven Strategies For Beating Stress – a way to harmony.

Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Try yoga or meditation. If you don’t enjoy them, don’t force yourself – try another activity. The important thing is to find an activity that shields you from distractions and that enables you to stay in the moment.

Practice above 🙂 !

 

Living Simply.

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Practice saying “No” to things that don’t bring you inner peace and fulfillment, whether they are material goods, great career responsibility or added social activities. Be vigilant with your time and energy; they are limited resources. If you say “Yes” to one thing (like a job promotion), recognize that you are saying “No” to something else (perhaps more time with family). Live consciously and deliberately.

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Proven Strategies For Beating Stress – ways to harmony

Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Practice slow, deep breaths. Shallow, fearful breathing seems to send stress signals to the brain.

Practice above 🙂 !

More ways in my next blog!

Living Simply – seek support.

Living simply has a lot to do with giving yourself permission to say “no”. It means freeing ourselves from commitments and obligations that complicate life or interfere with what we really want to do. Identify one or two things or events that burden you and simply let it go…

By wanting – and sometimes, doing – less, we create more space for the things that really matter.

Seek the support of others who want to simplify their lives. Join or start a simplicity circle if you enjoy group interaction. Living simply in our culture can be a lonely journey, one that friends and family still on the earn-and-spend treadmill may not understand.