Life Transitions – as seen from a “LifeStorian” point of view.

What’s a “LifeStorian” you may ask?

Let me first point out that we all, throughout Life, go through many transitions. Actually, Life is in the transitions. That’s where it all happens – in the transition itself we experience the ups and downs of life. We learn. We change. We move on. We LIVE. The key is to MANAGE life transitions. And that’s a skill. Specifically, they’re a skill we can, and must, master.

Bruce Feiler, the Author of “Life is in the transitions – mastering change at any age” – identified seven tools for navigating life transitions:

1. Accept it: identify your emotions
2. Mark it: ritualize the change
3. Shed it: give up the old mind-sets
4. Create it: try new things
5. Share it: seek wisdom from other

Once we know how to use those tools we’ll have a tool box from where we can get help when needed, and with the help of the tools, manage our life transitions.

So, what’s a LifeStorian? It’s a Storyteller of Life. It’s a way to, by using the frame work of “The Life Story Interview”, learn how you think about your life and how you turn the ups and downs of your life into who you are as a person – what’s important to you, how you got that way, who you are now. And how the different transitions of your life are connected and might have influenced each other.

The Story of your Life – in 15 minutes…

Transition Coaching (www.CoachLars.com) – Get Read for Change, to live by design, not by chance…is an example of how, by knowing and using the tools mentioned above, you can master the transitions you are facing.

My 5 step transition signature program “Get Ready 4 Change” is about making a choice to Live by Design…not by chance. To Plan and Prepare for the changes and transitions facing you, in order to Prevent surprises down the road (the three P’s in my signature program).

I also plan to, by using the techinque of a LifeStorian, write a book – “Daily Bits of Change” (www.DailyBitsOfChange.com) with the hope it will inspire, and help you, understand that Life is in the transitions.

The flow of Life Energy

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Life energy flows through us like a swift stream when there is nothing to obstruct it, but various forces such as trauma, downbeat vibrations, and disappointments act like stones that impede the current.

Allow the energy to take charge of your own well-being by taking steps to unblock, correct, and enhance that flow.

Explore. Dream. Discover.

Sale away from the safe harbor. Fear not. Embrace the unknown. LIVE.

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Social skills – today’s edge in a digital world.

The importance of social skills is crucial.

Never have social skills been as important. Human Capital is a major success factor in today’s corporate environment.

In the personal face to face meeting, the customer expects world-class treatment. All business, regardless of size and industry, takes place between people. Your social capability, i.e. the ability to understand how your behavior affects the group dynamics and other people’s behavior, as well as the ability to adapt will give you success. Become the best version of yourself and dare to go outside the box. Invest in your and your co-workers’ ability to be present, to listen genuinely, and confirm and convey a clear and professional response based on what the client tells you and ask for.

In today’s digital world that’s huge, and a winning strategy for a successful relationship with your clients.

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Employee wellness services in 2019

Employees demand Wellness Services as one of the Employee Benefits in 2019. Read about the Third Economic Issue in the article. Then go to http://www.CoachLars.com for more about how I can help you, and your employees, Live & Retire by Design…not by chance.

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What is Mindful Solution-Focused Coaching?

Imagine your encounter a problem.

Imagine you are equipped with a flashlight.

Awareness (mindfulness) is a bit like the flashlight. Whatever you direct the beam towards becomes visible in the dark. Oftentime you direct its beam toward the problem you encounter – and all the rest is in darkness.

What’s important is to widen the beam of your flashlight. By doing so, coaching may shed light on new and useful areas of you, facets and details become visible that previously had been in the dark. The focus of your awareness (mindfulness) widens. You are able to perceive other parts of your reality, re-describe how you in the past dealt with a similar situation and thus generate more options.

You have become more Mindful about your actions, observing without being caught up in it, and by not identifying with your actions you have set the stage for re-describing your problem, and focusing in on a solution – you have become aware of your expanded choices, you are now Focused on a Solution.

One very central effect of Coaching, and the Transition Coaching I do, consists of your increased self-confidence in your own ability, and trust, to master a difficult situation. Confidence is a prerequisite for taking small steps for change. The coaching creates a framework in which you, my client, become aware of your competencies and resources and are able to access them – you become aware of the competencies you previously used to master situations that were as difficult as the one at hand, re-describe, re-discover, and if you trust in yourself, you will be able to try something new and different to reach your goals (and a solution to your problem).

This is what Mindful Solution-Focused Coaching is, and that’s my approach in my Transition Coaching service I offer.

Get Ready 4 Change. Have the Life you want! Get the support you need.

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What is Coaching?

The word coaching is indeed widely used – from management support services to the fitness trainer in a health club. For clarity, this is my definition of coaching.

For a second, think about the arts and crafts of frame making. Framing a picture in such a way that it can unfold its full expresssivity is an art that few people have mastered. Rembrandt was quoted as saying that during his whole career it was more difficult for him to find an appropriate frame than to paint the picture!

Now, think about coaching as framing a piece of art…As a coach we create a frame (of thought) for the individual or team in which his or her goals, solutions, and first steps can shine. The frame constructed by the coach consists of goal-oriented questions, reinforcing feedback, present listening, and useful summary.

It is the task of coaching to ensure that the individual or team receive the appropriate frame. But just like the frame maker, the coach would never start actively creating the picture…

Feel the FEAR…& do it anyway.

 

Everybody feels fear when dealing with something totally new in life, yet many people are out there ‘doing it’ anyway.

This must mean that fear is not the problem.

It’s how we deal with fear. How we hold the fear.

For some, they hold their fear from a place of power (their fear gives them choice, energy, and action. For others, it creates a state of shut down and they hold their fear from a place of pain (their fear makes them feel helpless, depressed, and stuck).

The cure for our fear lies in saying ‘yes’.

The phrase ‘say yes’ means ‘to agree to’ those things that Life hands to us.

Saying yes means not struggling against, but letting in the opportunities of seeing the World in new ways. On the other hand, saying no means to be a victim. ‘How could this happen to me!’

Saying no means to block, to fight, to struggle against opportunities for growth and challenge. Saying no creates tension, tiredness, wasted energy, upset feelings, – or, worse, it creates a lack of caring.

Say yes to Life. Join in. Move. Act. Write. Read. Stand up. Take a stand. Or do whatever works for you. Get involved in the process.

Become what you want to attract.

Be the kind of person you want to surround yourself with.

Be the change you want to see in others…

…and embrace FEAR in the process.

Our Fear…to “fail” Life.

Are we prisoners of our own expectations?

Are we so occupied by adding new “things” in our lives, lose weight, improve our self, strenghten our relationships, find a new partner, become “succesful”, make more money, spend more money…that we lose sight of what really matters?

Or do we chose to be in the moment and to deal with each transition/change as it happens,  without feeling we have to be acknowledged by anyone for what we have, but rather for who we are?

To look inside…do soul searching…rather than focusing our efforts on “improving” our outside – looks, things, “status” measured in money and what others see and thinks.

Isn’t it how we act, what we do for ourselves AND others, that should determine our success? So look inward – do soul searching. Be in the moment. Be mindful. And stop fearing you will “fail” life. Fear not. LIVE!

There’s an angel in my room,

She lives in my head.

She keeps my calm

And she whispers to me everything I say.

There’s another me inside my head and

she has the most beautiful soul.

She is love and hope,

and she tells me

how much I care.

 

 

A New Year…

One week in.

The transition into a New Year can be exhilarating, fearful and sometimes tearful…

Whatever feeling you have entering into a New Year it’s always a transition from the past into a future you know nothing about, but one that may present challenges you can prepare for.

To “have the life you want” it’s a good idea to “get the support you need”. A friend, a spouse, a trusted mentor…or a coach.

For more about my 5-step transition signature program “get ready 4change” visit www.CoachLars.com

Happy New Year!

A helping hand…coaching