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What’s a “LifeStorian” you may ask?
Let me first point out that we all, throughout Life, go through many transitions. Actually, Life is in the transitions. That’s where it all happens – in the transition itself we experience the ups and downs of life. We learn. We change. We move on. We LIVE. The key is to MANAGE life transitions. And that’s a skill. Specifically, they’re a skill we can, and must, master.
Bruce Feiler, the Author of “Life is in the transitions – mastering change at any age” – identified seven tools for navigating life transitions:
- Accept it: identify your emotions
- Mark it: ritualize the change
- Shed it: give up the old mind-sets
- Create it: try new things
- Share it: seek wisdom from other
Once we know how to use those tools we’ll have a tool box from where we can get help when needed, and with the help of the tools, manage our life transitions.
So, what’s a LifeStorian? It’s a Storyteller of Life. It’s a way to, by using the frame work of “The Life Story Interview”, learn how you think about your life and how you turn the ups and downs of your life into who you are as a person – what’s important to you, how you got that way, who you are now. And how the different transitions of your life are connected and might have influenced each other.
The Story of your Life – in 15 minutes…
Transition Coaching (www.CoachLars.com) – Get Read for Change, to live by design, not by chance…is an example of how, by knowing and using the tools mentioned above, you can master the transitions you are facing.
My 5 step transition signature program “Get Ready 4 Change” is about making a choice to Live by Design…not by chance. To Plan and Prepare for the changes and transitions facing you, in order to Prevent surprises down the road (the three P’s in my signature program).
I also plan to, by using the techinque of a LifeStorian, write a book – “Daily Bits of Change” (www.DailyBitsOfChange.com) with the hope it will inspire, and help you, understand that Life is in the transitions.
My Friends!
Yes, my blog is about to Live by Design. Have the life you want. Get the help you need @www.CoachLars.com.
Today though I like to address one specific life changing situation too many of us are facing. Either because we are in the fight ourselves or becasue we have family or friends who are.
Transitions in Life are about CHANGE and change means taking ACTION.
Today I AM asking YOU to take ACTION. Action to FIGHT CANCER.
We ALL know someone who have been affected by cancer and I’m asking you to join me in the fight, and my initiative in support of fighting cancer (www.LetsFightCancer.org).
The website http://www.LetsFightCancer.org is right now linked to my blog but my hope is to set up a website and start donating proceeds from my Transition & Retirement Coaching business (www.CoachLars.com), with the hope my initiative will spark others, businesses as well as individuals, to take up the fight.
LetsFightCancer..together!
In the meantime please consider donating to your local chapter of American Cancer Society, StandUp2Cancer or any other charity in your community or country that support our fight to prevent, cure, and defeat cancer. Forget U Cancer (www.ForgetUCancer.org) is an example of a local Beacon, NY initiativ to help raising money to families in the community with family members who are fighting cancer.
God bless!
One week in.
The transition into a New Year can be exhilarating, fearful and sometimes tearful…
Whatever feeling you have entering into a New Year it’s always a transition from the past into a future you know nothing about, but one that may present challenges you can prepare for.
To “have the life you want” it’s a good idea to “get the support you need”. A friend, a spouse, a trusted mentor…or a coach.
For more about my 5-step transition signature program “get ready 4change” visit www.CoachLars.com
Happy New Year!

A helping hand…coaching
“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me , I’d still have to say it.”
– George F. Burns
1. One thing at a time. Do it right now. Remove distractions.
2. Simplify your schedule. Learn to say no. Leave room for down time and fun.
3. Get moving. Walk, hike, play a sport, go for a run, do yoga.
4. Develop one healthy habit this month. One habit at a time – for example eat fruit and veggies for snack, drink water instead of soda.
5. Do something calming. Find what calms you down. Housework, yard work, meditation, nature walk, reading, taking a bath.
6. Simplify your finances. Automate savings and bill payments and debt payments. Find ways to have fun that don’t involve spending money.
7. Have a blast! Have fun each day, even it’s just for a few minutes. Laugh a lot and often. Smile.
8. Get creative. If you like to write, do so. If you prefer to paint or play music or sketch or make pottery or do interior design or build things…Just do it!
9. Declutter. Take 20-30 minutes to just to through a room, getting rid of stuff you don’t use or need anymore.
10. Be early. Schedule some buffer time to avoid being late – because being late can be very stressful…and if you get somewhere early, meditate!
Now your life will probably never be stress-free – I don’t think that’s even desirable, even if is possible, because stress is something that challenges us and helps us grow. At a reasonable level. But when stress gets too high, it causes us to be unhappy and unhealthy.
“It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself…It is only love that can give us insight into what is real and what is important. And so a radical act of love makes sense, love for life and for the emergence of one’s truest self.” —– Jon Kabat-Zinn
To bare our heart (or soul) to someone, to reveal our innermost thoughts…to undress your soul. Check out my illustration – Feelings & Expressions©.