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Everybody feels fear when dealing with something totally new in life, yet many people are out there ‘doing it’ anyway.
This must mean that fear is not the problem.
It’s how we deal with fear. How we hold the fear.
For some, they hold their fear from a place of power (their fear gives them choice, energy, and action. For others, it creates a state of shut down and they hold their fear from a place of pain (their fear makes them feel helpless, depressed, and stuck).
The cure for our fear lies in saying ‘yes’.
The phrase ‘say yes’ means ‘to agree to’ those things that Life hands to us.
Saying yes means not struggling against, but letting in the opportunities of seeing the World in new ways. On the other hand, saying no means to be a victim. ‘How could this happen to me!’
Saying no means to block, to fight, to struggle against opportunities for growth and challenge. Saying no creates tension, tiredness, wasted energy, upset feelings, – or, worse, it creates a lack of caring.
Say yes to Life. Join in. Move. Act. Write. Read. Stand up. Take a stand. Or do whatever works for you. Get involved in the process.
Become what you want to attract.
Be the kind of person you want to surround yourself with.
Be the change you want to see in others…
…and embrace FEAR in the process.
One week in.
The transition into a New Year can be exhilarating, fearful and sometimes tearful…
Whatever feeling you have entering into a New Year it’s always a transition from the past into a future you know nothing about, but one that may present challenges you can prepare for.
To “have the life you want” it’s a good idea to “get the support you need”. A friend, a spouse, a trusted mentor…or a coach.
For more about my 5-step transition signature program “get ready 4change” visit www.CoachLars.com
Happy New Year!
A helping hand…coaching
“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me , I’d still have to say it.”
– George F. Burns
1. One thing at a time. Do it right now. Remove distractions.
2. Simplify your schedule. Learn to say no. Leave room for down time and fun.
3. Get moving. Walk, hike, play a sport, go for a run, do yoga.
4. Develop one healthy habit this month. One habit at a time – for example eat fruit and veggies for snack, drink water instead of soda.
5. Do something calming. Find what calms you down. Housework, yard work, meditation, nature walk, reading, taking a bath.
6. Simplify your finances. Automate savings and bill payments and debt payments. Find ways to have fun that don’t involve spending money.
7. Have a blast! Have fun each day, even it’s just for a few minutes. Laugh a lot and often. Smile.
8. Get creative. If you like to write, do so. If you prefer to paint or play music or sketch or make pottery or do interior design or build things…Just do it!
9. Declutter. Take 20-30 minutes to just to through a room, getting rid of stuff you don’t use or need anymore.
10. Be early. Schedule some buffer time to avoid being late – because being late can be very stressful…and if you get somewhere early, meditate!
Now your life will probably never be stress-free – I don’t think that’s even desirable, even if is possible, because stress is something that challenges us and helps us grow. At a reasonable level. But when stress gets too high, it causes us to be unhappy and unhealthy.
“It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself…It is only love that can give us insight into what is real and what is important. And so a radical act of love makes sense, love for life and for the emergence of one’s truest self.” —– Jon Kabat-Zinn
To bare our heart (or soul) to someone, to reveal our innermost thoughts…to undress your soul. Check out my illustration – Feelings & Expressions©.
Expression of Joy – photo by Lars
Begin & end each day with an Expression of Joy! Then you know you have done something that day to not only add value to your own well-being but in the process you have touched so many others – many whom you’ll never see again, some you’ll wake up next to in the morning.
The key to understand joy in the things you see or do is awareness. Awareness is knowing what is happening around you. Self-awareness is knowing what you are experiencing. When you truly accept, choose or take responsibility for your thoughts and your actions, your commitments to them rises and so does your “expression of joy”… Being aware of who you are is also about knowing your interests, attitudes and values – for more about that contact me for a free consultation!
“Take the first step in Faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
– Martin Luther King
Oscar Wilde said – “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people only exist”
Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
Please take moment to click on this link, read, learn and spread the insight – a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:
