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What does life transition mean and what would better managing them entail?

Let’s take a pivotal period in life – transitioning into retirement or semi-retirement. One of the things to look at, as in any transition, is the help needed to build resilience and skills in an individual facing this life changing transition.

Planning, preparing and preventing are three key words that first come to mind, and with a help of a coach you can enter into this new phase of your life confident and with more ease.

During any transition you hit barriers, road blocks, that have prevented you to succeed in the past. One is a behavioral barrier – the way we relate to others. Loneliness, for example, which so significantly impacts health later in life, is one important barrier you may face. Without the support of a partner, peers, family, friend, neighbors, an individual might find it considerably harder to face significant life changes.
On the other hand, reduced independence might prove detrimental because it can diminish the individual’s sense of control of his or her own destiny.

Attitudes also play a pivotal role in any transition. How we choose to enter into a transition. To capitalize on the lessons learnt from their own past experiences (or other’s) the individual is given a platform from where to better prepare for future difficult transitions. The challenge is that it may not be obvious how to do this and guidance from a coach could prove pivotal to the success of the change…to de-traumatize the transition.

Instead of fearing change, embrace it and instigate a change in perception from one of loss and hopelessness,  to one focused on assets that builds resilience.

Other barriers are related to family and social networks, and how to best “intervene” to put you back on track on your journey – your transition – into retirement.

These are a just a few of the challenges/barriers you’ll face in a transition but they give you an idea of what to expect if you choose not to plan, prepare and prevent. i.e. entering into the transition kind of blindfolded.

If you like to get help with a transition like this or any other transition you are facing in life, please get in touch with me to discuss how I can be of help – www.CoachLars.com

In today’s world we live a life in where we embrace change as not only something positive but more importantly a necessity of survival.

And where the future belongs to those who are able to take better advantage of social tools, extending their capabilities in ways that violate old models not because they know more useful things than we, the older generation do, but because they know fewer useless things than we do.

Our social tools are dramatically improving our ability to share, cooperate, and act together.

The power of organizing without organizations.

The power of getting things done by collaborating collectively without a hierarchical flow of decision makings. Malcom Gladwell in “What the Dog Saw” said; “If everyone had to think outside the box, maybe it was the box that needed fixing.” Seen in that light, social tools don’t create collective action – they merely remove the obstacles to it. Those obstacles have been so significant and pervasive, however, that as they are being removed, the world is becoming a different place.

Many of the changes we see are not based on the fanciest, newest bits of technology but on simple, easy-to-use tools like smartphones, apps, blogs and websites, because those are tools most people have access to and, critically, are comfortable using in their daily lives. Revolution doesn’t happen when society adopts new technologies – it happens when society adopts new behaviors.

So as more people adopt simple social tools, and as those tools allow increasingly rapid communication, the speed of group action also increases, and just as more is different, faster is different.

Holacracy  is a new way of running an organization. It removes power from a traditional management hierarchy and distributes it across clear roles without a micromanaging boss. The work is actually more structured than in a conventional company, just differently so. With Holacracy there is a clear set of rules and processes for how a team breaks up its work, and defines its roles with clear responsibilities and expectations.

It’s possible because of the rapid communication, the speed of which the group can act, taking advantage of social tools, adapting new behaviors faster than can be done in a traditional hierarchical environment and way of working.

The power of organizing without organizations are here to stay.

Here comes everybody, interconnected with social tools most people have access to, and not only to a few selected with their names in square boxes, interconnected with lines on a piece of paper.

 

I feed off inspiration ALL the time. Everything I do is born out of inspiration. Is that bad?

It’s probably the reason why I am not always MOTIVATED… Inspiration is defined as the process of being mentally stimulated to do something, especially something creative. BUT it’s an EXTERNAL force…MOTIVATION is an INTERNAL drive…

SO I need to learn to ACT on everyday inspiration – MOTIVATION does that. It comes from within and propels me to ACT on the inspiration I can find anywhere – IF I choose and am willing to look for it…

I need to let the inspiration turn into motivation to act and allow it to be the accelerant to produce more of my “monster” ideas and plots when I write my stories; or when I help others excel and become more thoughtful, mindful and solution-focused; as a way of living, behaving, and working with others.

And YOU can do the same! Choose to let your inspiration feed your motivation to ACT!

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

Image“Fight fair” – and by appointment only.

Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It’s easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won’t be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

ImageFact-find – don’t mind-read.

You may think you know but you can’t assume. You may believe your partner should know, but that’s not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don’t throw you both off course.

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. Every week for the next 12 weeks you’ll get a new Smart Strategy to use 🙂

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Do not place blame.

Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together — sit close, hold hands, touch each other’s face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone 🙂

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. Every week for the next 12 weeks you’ll get a new Smart Strategy to use 🙂

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Boost your compatibility.

Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don’t like your partner’s choice, don’t complain; it’s your turn next.

Came across the following quote when studying cognitive behavioral coaching techniques – it’s a powerful reminder that we choose our attitude…and the way we look at a situation, regardless how hopeless it may seem…

Viktor Frankl, an eminent psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz, wrote:

” We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way.”

 

Some thoughts I actually put down for my daughters’ journeys into adulthood 🙂

We always have a choice.

Make sure you always work with others because others, regardless of your feelings towards them, teach you to listen, appreciate, and accept who YOU are, and strive to be.

Be aware of your own potential, skill sets and make sure to sharpen them – then find others with skills that compliment yours…and together you WILL achieve more.

Life is not a journey you travel on alone – make friends, good friends, who will not only compliment you and support you but also tell you when you are wrong…

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Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

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Be present.

Train your mind to stay in the moment – focus on the person in front of you, the activity you are doing right now or the feeling you feel. Thinking about your next move, be it planning for tomorrow’s work or planning that dream vacation, has its place and time – make sure your thoughts do not wander aimlessly over the whole spectrum of activities – stay in the moment.

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