If you RESPECT me,
I will hear you.

If you LISTEN to me,
I will feel understood.

If you UNDERSTAND me,
I will feel appreciated.

If you APPRECIATE me,
I will know your support.

If you SUPPORT me as I try
new things,
I will become responsible.

When I am RESPONSIBLE,
I will grow to be independent.

In my INDEPENDENCE,
I will respect you and love you all
of my life.

Thank you,

Your Teenager
copyright 2007 Diana Sterling

Expressions

Expression of Joy – photo by Lars

Begin & end each day with an Expression of Joy! Then you know you have done something that day to not only add value to your own well-being but in the process you have touched so many others – many whom you’ll never see again, some you’ll wake up next to in the morning.

The key to understand joy in the things you see or do is awareness. Awareness is knowing what is happening around you. Self-awareness is knowing what you are experiencing. When you truly accept, choose or take responsibility for your thoughts and your actions, your commitments to them rises and so does your “expression of joy”… Being aware of who you are is also about knowing your interests, attitudes and values – for more about that contact me for a free consultation!

Morning FogAn act or a thing is important to you because you make it important. You are in control of what you make important — no one else. What’s important to you is a choice you make…

And that’s all it is. Like choosing vanilla or chocolate. Do you have a reason for choosing one flavor of ice cream or the other? No, you simply choose. What you make important is just like that. No reason. Just choice.

A choice is an either/or deal, because choice is always a relative thing. Do you want this or that? To go here or there?

You will choose what’s most important to you at the time. To help you make choices that forward your progress, simply ask yourself: which choice serves me best right now?

Then you commit…commit to your success…Now, as soon as you’ve made a commitment, you’ll be tested. You will doubt yourself — and your commitment. Don’ worry. (Be happy.) Just re-commit. And you may (I’m sorry — you will) have to do that again, and again, and again.

If you need help finding out what’s most important to you, learn how to commit and have someone backing you up again, and again, and again when you doubt yourself – and your commitment, try me Values Staircase™ for free. Click here for a free 20 minutes consultation!

“Take the first step in Faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

– Martin Luther King

Oscar Wilde said – “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people only exist”

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.  Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles.  Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost.  Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.

Please take moment to click on this link, read, learn and spread the insight – a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:

8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Marie Curie (1867-1934) said:

Nothing in life is to be feared. It s only to be understood”.

The strength, the courage, the faith and hope we need to walk through life and the path we have chosen leave no room for fear…

What if” is always on our minds when trying to understand and explain something we feel don’t go our way…but as a parent, partner and lover the what if doesn’t exist…because we do what it takes to care for our children and the ones we love, we handle the situations as they occur, we don’t try to second guess. We take the necessary steps and act out of love and do everything we can to protect, nurture, develop, support and give them the one and only thing we never should run out of – love. And we tell them “nothing in life is to be feared, only to be understood”…

Why do we then doubt our selves, our path, our way and tell ourselves “what if” when we don’t do that to others…?

In order to understand life we may need a helping hand…As your life coach and transition coach I’ll be there on your journey to learn, to help, to support…to coach. We may know what’s best for the ones we love…make sure though to do same for YOU… challenge yourself, without fear, to answer the following;

“If you could do anything now, with the life you have in front of you, what would it be?”

Then fill out the contact form below with your answer in the comment box, check out my website CoachLars.com and get ready for a free initial consultation how to have the life you want and get the support you need. Understand life, rather than fearing it, and instead of asking yourself “what if”, simply asking yourself “what can I do”.

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I posted this blog back in the fall of 2013. Thought it was worthwhile to repeat it now in the beginning of a new year. We all need to be reminded about what matters in a relationship – remember that your best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other…

A personal note related to above…Back in 2001, I became a stay-home-dad and had the great fortune for the next 10 years to be part of my kids every day fun laughter, tears, learning and challenges. I experienced first hand that is it NO cliche – it really is the small things in life that matters. It is also not what you do out of need – the volunteering I experienced in schools wasn’t done out of need…it was done out of love. And the reward wasn’t money in your pocket – it was an investment, a deposit in our heart and soul.

Now, looking back at those years and seeing the love and appreciation in the, by now, young women that used to be my kids running around, pulling my hand, urging me to come and play, give them a hand, read and feed them not only food but knowledge and experience, I know it was all worth it. And I know it wasn’t necessarily that they NEEDED me but rather that they got what the LOVE they wanted to grow up, establishing their own personal interests, attitudes and values – a belief system that will follow them through life.

So, remember that your best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other 🙂

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life. Every week for the next 12 weeks you’ll get a new Smart Strategy to use 🙂

ImagePrepare for check-outs.

Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don’t take it personally and don’t make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) — and when you’re checking back in.

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It’s not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours – but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following happy-couple strategies into your love life.

Image“Fight fair” – and by appointment only.

Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It’s easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won’t be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

Stress…we all talk about being stressed. What do we really refer to?

We generally use the word “stress” when we feel that everything seems to have become too much – we are overloaded and wonder whether we really can cope with the pressures placed upon us.

Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you – without any stress at all many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However, when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical health they are bad. In this post I shall be focusing on proven strategies for beating stress that is bad for you:

Try yoga or meditation. If you don’t enjoy them, don’t force yourself – try another activity. The important thing is to find an activity that shields you from distractions and that enables you to stay in the moment.

Practice above 🙂 !

 

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