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My Friends!
Yes, my blog is about to Live by Design. Have the life you want. Get the help you need @www.CoachLars.com.
Today though I like to address one specific life changing situation too many of us are facing. Either because we are in the fight ourselves or becasue we have family or friends who are.
Transitions in Life are about CHANGE and change means taking ACTION.
Today I AM asking YOU to take ACTION. Action to FIGHT CANCER.
We ALL know someone who have been affected by cancer and I’m asking you to join me in the fight, and my initiative in support of fighting cancer (www.LetsFightCancer.org).
The website http://www.LetsFightCancer.org is right now linked to my blog but my hope is to set up a website and start donating proceeds from my Transition & Retirement Coaching business (www.CoachLars.com), with the hope my initiative will spark others, businesses as well as individuals, to take up the fight.
LetsFightCancer..together!
In the meantime please consider donating to your local chapter of American Cancer Society, StandUp2Cancer or any other charity in your community or country that support our fight to prevent, cure, and defeat cancer. Forget U Cancer (www.ForgetUCancer.org) is an example of a local Beacon, NY initiativ to help raising money to families in the community with family members who are fighting cancer.
God bless!
The word coaching is indeed widely used – from management support services, to a wellness coach in our fitness club. For clarity, let me explain what I mean by coaching.
For a moment, think about the arts and crafts of frame making…framing a picture in such a way that it can unfold its full expressivity is an art that few people have mastered. Rembrandt was quoted as saying that during his whole career it was more difficult for him to find an appropriate frame than to paint the picture!
Now, think about coaching as framing a piece of art…As a coach we create a frame (of thought) for the individual or team in which his or her goals, solutions, and first steps can shine. The frame constructed by the coach consists of goal-oriented questions, reinforcing feedback. present listening, and useful summary.
It is the task of coaching to ensure that the individual or team receive the appropriate frame. But just like the frame maker, the coach would never start actively creating the picture.
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Being Focused on the Solution of a situation rather than the cause – the problem – is the driving force behind SF coaching.
The idea being that it’s more useful to focus attention on building solutions for problems than on analyzing causes of problems, trusting that any person is competent to solve his or her own problems, but may need help finding solutions that fit his or her unique circumstances; individualized solutions that are really owned by the coachee/performer/team.
- Problem talk is negative, solution talk is positive and future focused.
- The future is both created and negotiable. People are not locked into a set of behaviors based on history and problems of the past.
- If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it. If it works, do more of it.
- The solution is not necessarily related to the problem. Talking about and acting upon what will be different is the focus, not uncovering why the problem occurred.
- No problem happens all the time; there are always exceptions that can be utilized. These exceptions can be used to create the solution.
- Small steps can lead to big changes. Being solution focused means using a series of small manageable steps to build the path to a Solution.
- Again, problem talk is negative, solution talk is positive and future focused.
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Mindfulness is awareness of, and an alert observing of your thoughts, emotions, body sensations, desires, memories, images, personality dynamics, attitudes, motivation, behavior, etc.
When you are mindful of something, you are observing it, not caught up in it and not identified with it. With people, you become more settled into being fully there with them, more peacefully relaxed in awareness of them and you and what’s happening, less identified with pleasant or unpleasant reactions that arise, less caught up in the past or future or sense of needing to make something happen. We can feel it immediately when someone else is mindfully present with us; similarly, others can feel it when you are that way yourself.
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